The Theory of Relativity

Well, as I was wandering the cyber community yesterday I happened upon a great article written by Tom Paine over at Polyamorously Perverse on Sex and Aging. I would link you to it if I could figure out how this stupid bit of technology works, but it's worth a look see if you get a chance.

What struck me about it was not necessarily the results of aging on an older libido but the chord that sounded in me when I started thinking of how much I prefer older men to those of my own age or younger. Being a tad self analytical I can tell you my penchant has it's roots firmly planted in some aspect of my relationship with my father, although I didn't know it until I started dating outside of my marriage. I didn't purposefully choose older men for relationships but the men that seemingly turn me on the most do happen to be older. Is that coincidence? I don't think so. Tom mentions in his posting that older men in general have a holistic approach to sex, which I can add testimony to. My two significant other's are very much that way and though they wouldn't go so far as to say they are "older men", they are older than me. Richard and Jack both seem to get turned on by the whole experience, from the first sexy email of our date night, to dinner, cuddling, stroking, kissing (lots and lots of kissing) even foreplay and after play. Many men of my age (thirty something) and younger seem to get so caught up in the "goal" they forget to enjoy the game. I mean I love a good, solid, bend me over the bed, fuck. What has been my experience though, is that older men not only can go a lot longer, they want to. They tend to be more sensuous and present in the moment.

I admit freely I have a thing for John Wayne. It's my "Duke" syndrome. I have a reoccurring fantasy of a tall, rugged, older man, who's confident and commanding approaches me slides a massive rough hand to the nape of my neck and gets a handful of long hair and just pulls. Not the I'm gonna rip your hair out pull but the "I'm in charge", bend my head back slightly and kiss me thoroughly kind of thing. Like that moment when Rhett has had enough and grabs Scarlett and carries her off to bed. An older man could do that for me, I can feel a wetness between my thighs just writing it. His full weight on top of me, holding an arm down by the wrist, looking into my eyes completely decisive in his actions. Lifting me from this position to that, devouring my body as if he's hungry for my satisfaction as much as his... Mmmm...

Now for all of Jack and Richard's comments about not having the stamina, hardness or recovery time they did twenty years ago, I'm so impressed with their current talents I would be hard pressed to know anything was amiss had they not mentioned it. I am completely convinced older men have such a wealth of experience and style to share I would gladly choose a man much older than me every time. So, my point I guess is simply older men just know how to fuck, from start to finish and if you've not had the experience I think once you do you'll never go back.

Keep it up Tom. No, REALLY...

Keep IT up.